I admit it. I’m a celebrity and fashion magazine nut. When confronted with two back issues of the “Harvard Business Review,” a colorful “Fortune,” an “Inc.,” or a “Selling Power” – all things that can help me in my work – I’ll burrow under them to find the copy of “People,” “Vogue” or “Entertainment Weekly.”
Those magazines always make me feel a crazy combination of good … and bad.
They influence me. They lead me to think that lots of people are more successful, and clearly much more attractive, than I am. And, of course, I allow it every time!
It isn’t just magazines. It’s mostly people. And I know that I – and I suspect many others – aren’t as careful as we should be about allowing influence
We need to keep the criteria in mind: Is this person worthy of my allowing influence to happen? Who IS this person? What do they stand for? And do we have any values in common at all?
And influence happens in other ways, too. Years ago, when embarking on my career in business, I saw people who drove nice cars, wore great clothes, and seemed to have it all together. What was their secret?
Was it just like in the movies: beware of people who appear successful, because they probably have ill-gotten gains? That must be the case, I reasoned – after all, I was honest, and I was making $600 a month in my job at an advertising agency in L.A. If they were making more, well, they probably did things I’d rather not think about!
That’s a pervasive attitude too. I think lots of us are so influenced by the media that we’ve come to believe that, somehow, money is bad. “Money is the root of all evil,” we mouth, so therefore if I don’t have any money, I must be virtuous!
Nah. That’s just not true. What’s true is this: the absence of money is the root of a lot of evil. People who have money may or may not be moral, ethical people. And people who have money are freed up from the pursuit of money to put bread on the table, and able – if they choose – to spend their money to do good!
So, who or what influences your attitudes and decisions that impact your success? Are they positive, supportive, and energizing for you? If not, talk with me about ways you can make changes for the better.